On the social science scale of stress, most adults report that divorce is the most stressful event of their lifetime, just short of death of a loved one. There are endless details to manage, as well as emotional challenges. If children are involved, things are endlessly messy from start to finish, and for years to come. One strategy that positively affects divorce outcomes involves having a vision, managing emotional details with clarity, and laying the groundwork for good communication/cooperation with your X2B. While these expectations might seem unattainable in the early months of a volatile divorce process, nevertheless, working with a divorce coach can be a central tool in ending up with the kind of post-divorce life you want to live – one that is worth living.

Some areas on which a divorce coach will help you include:

Financial planning — A divorce coach can help you organize your financial documents and assess your current financial situation. An objective eye can be helpful in seeing beyond the fear and intimidation often associated with finances, and help you prioritize and plan your post-divorce future. If a change of employment is something you are considering to boost your income, a divorce coach can help you identify and target your proper place in the job market.

Practicing better communication — A divorce coach can help you prepare for meetings with your ex so you are clear in presenting your needs, requests, and proposed solutions. Coaching can help you clear your head, hear your own voice, and learn to modulate your tone, volume, and language so your communications are more effective.  In times of great stress, we literally cannot hear or see ourselves without a trained outside neutral’s guidance and assistance.

Getting clear about parenting — Your coach can help you be a better parent by clarifying your priorities as you negotiate your parenting time. Learning to co-parent with your ex can be tricky, and a coach can suggest ways to ease the transition from one to two homes.

Providing emotional support — A divorce coach can talk you through the more difficult moments of your divorce as you manage depression, anxiety, fear, loneliness, anger, rage, heartbreak, and healing. While not a replacement for a therapist, a coach can help with short-term solutions, problem solving and emotional support during these stressful times.

In sum, no one should go through a divorce alone. A divorce coach is a great professional to add to your support team. In addition to a divorce coach, you also need a great divorce attorney. For compassionate counsel and tough advocacy (when appropriate), contact Hanan M. Isaacs, P. C., by calling our Central New Jersey law offices at 609-683-7400, or contact us online.  You will be glad you did.