The number of children under the age of 18 living in one home with two married parents has hit an all-time low, nationally.  At the same time, the nation’s lawyers, social workers, and judges scramble to make post-divorce co-parenting a working success. In his new book, Two Homes, One Childhood, psychologist and divorce expert Robert Emory promotes new ways divorcing parents can navigate an old story.

Nesting

In recent years, many divorcing parents have adopted the practice of nesting — in which the parents procure a second living space and the children stay where they are. Parents set up a schedule of exchange between them, alternating the days or weeks that work for them. This is a great option for divorcing parent with small children, for parents who have an excellent working relationship, and for a limited time during or immediately following a divorce. It is clearly not right for every family, and is not necessarily a viable arrangement once new partners get involved.

Co-habiting

Some parents, especially those with infants or toddlers, choose to remain in the same home during and after a divorce. This arrangement can be a great solution for a nursing mother/baby when it would be highly disruptive to live apart. With the help of mediation or a parenting coordinator, parents can establish a set of rules and boundaries that protect privacy and avoid conflict, while allowing a baby or small child to continue to live with both parents.

Flexible scheduling

Parents of older children and teens often face anger, resistance, and non-cooperation during a divorce. A divorcing couple can enlist the guidance of a mediator or collaborative attorney to establish a shared parenting agreement that is staged, accommodating the developmental needs of growing children. As teenagers move into the social world and are less eager to comply with a court-appointed parenting time schedule, a flexible, dynamic agreement can be instrumental in supporting both parents and the best interests of a child-turning-adult.

Divorcing parents face many difficult decisions. A skilled family law attorney can offer creative solutions to shared parenting issues and assist families in discovering the best arrangement for their particular needs.

If you are divorcing or have questions about divorce, call the experienced family law attorneys at Hanan M. Isaacs, P.C.  We will listen to your facts, explain the law, and suggest approaches that are just and reasonable for you.  We are compassionate counsel and tough advocates.  Call us at 609-683-7400, or contact us online, to make a near-term initial consultation at a reduced fee.  We are conveniently located in Central Jersey’s Kingston community. Call today.  You will be glad you did.